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Birthmother: Ten years and counting

By Birthmother – My first child turned ten years old in May.  It’s December now, the very LAST day of December.  I’ve been putting this journal entry off for THAT long, not because I’ve had anything better to do, but because … Continue reading

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Birthmother: Eight years and counting

By Birthmother – Today is May 11, 2015. My first child, Catherine, will reach 8 years of age in August.  My second child will be turning 4 this very month.  These children are both fully and undeniably planted in their … Continue reading

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Birthmother: Fork in the road

By Birthmother – “You came to the fork in the road and you took it.” A wise therapist once used this line on me.  He explained to me that sometimes it doesn’t matter whether I turn left or right.  Either … Continue reading

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Birthmother: Myth of the mind changing mother

By Birthmother – The Family Court judge who presides over adoption proceedings in the city in New York in which I live is a wise, wise woman.  She has concocted a speech, a speech which I strongly suspect she gives to … Continue reading

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Birthmother: What is a birthmother?

By Birthmother – I asked my daughter’s adoptive Daddy whether or not she’s started asking about her biological parents.  She’s 6 years old now which is certainly old enough to start wondering, to notice that something isn’t quite ‘normal’ about … Continue reading

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Birthmother: Seeing is believing

By Birthmother – What is it like to see my children grow up with their adoptive parents?  I get this question a lot. For me, getting information about my children is like getting a breath of fresh air.  When I … Continue reading

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Birthmother: Finding parents

By Birthmother – How do you choose the BEST parents for a child?  Imagine being faced with this task, browsing through profile after profile of responsible, caring people, all of whom are seeking children.  Where do you begin?  What do … Continue reading

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Birthmother: Reasons

By Birthmother – My choice to give my baby up for adoption was met with an abundance of positive feedback.  I get the impression that not everyone has this experience.  Maybe it depends on your upbringing.  I am an educated white … Continue reading

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Birthmother: Seeing me

By Birthmother – Passing on my genes One of the blessings of choosing open adoption is that I get to see and hear some of the details about my children as they grow. Each year I take a look at the … Continue reading

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Birthmother: Seeing life

By Birthmother – Pictures on the fridge: Benefits of open adoption Adoption isn’t what it used to be.  I always had the impression that adoption was a simple formula: a distressed biomom hands her baby away to a social worker, never … Continue reading

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